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Part 8: Summary – How Sex Has Changed the World

Part 8: Summary – How Sex Has Changed the World

Read the other parts of this series here:

 

Part 1: Secular Sex Values: The New Standard for the World

Part 2: Comprehensive Sex Education, Secular Sex Coming to Your Children

Part 3: The Man Who Changed Morality: Sex Researcher Alfred Kinsey

Part 4: Alfred Kinsey and Cultural Moral Transformation

Part 5: The Power of Biblical Sex

Part 6: The Power of Sex Gone Wrong

Part 7: Sex and Worldview: A Battle for the Soul

Part 8: Summary: How Sex Has Changed the World

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Sex is kind of a big deal. Well, not even kind of.

Sex has the power to either unify and fulfill, or divide and destroy. It is the power of life, or the power of death.

And because of that, Satan has used it effectively in the war against the souls of humankind.

The world says that we have the right to pleasure, that we deserve to be happy and get what we want, and that fulfillment means sexual freedom on our own terms. Christ says that we were bought with a price by His blood, that we have a responsibility to obedience with our bodies as with everything else, and that the only way we experience pleasure (or anything else good) is by living within the boundaries of life as created by Him.

2 completely different views of life.

That is what this series has attempted to illustrate; that sexuality is simply a weapon for worldview. Indulgence vs. Obedience. Pleasure vs. Responsibility.

Self vs. God.

And because sex encompasses every aspect of life – the physical, emotional, and spiritual – it has unique power to draw people to God or away from Him.

Worldview

A secular worldview acknowledges man as the measure of all things; morality is based on its consequences and is subjective according to experience. A Christian worldview acknowledges God as the measure of all things; morality is based on absolute, transcendent truths set forth by the One who created life and knows how it best runs.

Man vs. God. Self vs. Christ.

Sex is one of the best lures for a secular worldview – the right to sex, the right to pleasure, means the right to self. And the right to self eliminates Christ.

Biblical Sexuality

The biblical view of sexuality is, on the surface, pretty simple: sex is reserved only for the permanent, exclusive union of a man and a woman in marriage. This means the only option for sexuality, according to scripture, is abstinence outside of marriage between a man and a woman and faithfulness within marriage.

What is behind this guideline is quite a bit more complex, though. Marital sex, as part of the union of marriage, mirrors the nature and essence of God Himself. The union of two complementary genders reflects the completeness exemplified by the existence of male and female attributes found in the Triune God. The sexual union, as part of the marriage relationship between complementary genders, exemplifies and invites participation in the holistic body-emotions-soul experience of simultaneously being separate and unified– the individuality and yet plurality of the Trinity.

In spite of the world’s assertions, God did not create sexuality within these boundaries to deny humans pleasure. On the contrary, marital sex offers husband and wife not only pleasure, but…

power.

The power to experience and participate in the nature of God.

Through the marital union, husband and wife partake in the essence of God in three major ways:

1) Companionship – The experience the companionship of simultaneous individuality and community, a mirror of the relationship enjoyed by the Triune God

2) Mutual responsibility – The practice of mutual responsibility and giving within that unifying bond, similar to that of the Trinity

3) Power to create and nurture – Like God, participation in the power of creating new life and nurturing those lives into beings who are able to participate with the Creator

Marital sex is a means by which humans have the opportunity to enjoy and exemplify the essence of God. As a result, it has the capability, like God, of creating newness – a newness of community (previously separate into “one flesh” union), a newness of interaction (mutual giving and responsibility), and a newness of creation (children, and the family unit). God created sex within the framework of marriage because only within that framework does it tap into the power of who He is.

Sex Gone Wrong

Just as sex within the boundaries God created it has tremendous power to draw humans to one another and to God, sex outside of God’s intentions has power in the opposite direction. Sex outside of marriage between a man and a woman damages relationships between people and lures them away from the Lord and into focusing on themselves.

Although all sin separates us from God by virtue of being contrary to his character, 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 shows that there is something deeper and more fundamental about sexual sin – “All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body”. Why? Because sexual sin, against one’s own body, is sin against the God living in that body.

As the temple of the Holy Spirit, the body now houses the Lord.  In the Old Testament there hung a veil between the main part of the temple and the Holy of Holies where God’s presence resided, which separated humanity, with its sinfulness, from a holy God. However, Christ tore down that veil with His sacrifice for our sins – replacing our sinfulness with His holiness and giving us direct access to God. Once a person invites the Holy Spirit into their lives by accepting Christ’s sacrifice for sin (justification), the Holy Spirit comes to live within him or her. The temple of the Lord is now…us.

This means, however, that sexual sin, which sins against our bodies, is sin against the Lord Himself, who is in us. Sexual sin effectively separates us from God just like the Israelites were separated by the veil from God’s presence within the Holy of Holies. And there is an element of sex, as being against one’s own body – the temple of the Lord – that captures the whole of us: body, emotions, and spirit, like none other sin. It is for this reason scripture, from Song of Solomon to Proverbs to Paul to Christ, adamantly warns against the power of sexual immorality.

The power of sin gone wrong is so pervasive because is equated with idolatry. Sexual immorality, by pursuing personal pleasure and freedom over obedience and responsibility, puts self above God. And anything that comes before the Lord is idolatry – a rejection of the Lord in favor of something else. The process of sanctification – becoming more like Christ – requires giving Christ control of all of our lives, including our sexual lives. Sexual purity is critical to our process of sanctification, and to belonging to Christ in obedience; conversely, unrepentant sexual immorality has the power to cut us off from a relationship with the Lord, and with other people.

The great Deceiver knows this and has used this to his advantage.

Satan has effectively used sexual sin as an effective means for replacing God with self, and, therefore, inculcate a secular worldview. No other sins are as pervasive or holistic in their effects. Just as God-ordained marital sex ushers people into the power of God (the power of unity, fulfillment, and life), sex unrestrained enslaves people under the power of Satan – the power of division, destruction, and death.

Satan’s greatest coup has been the lie that sex doesn’t matter; that sex is nothing more than a physical “act”.

 The Conduit for Secular Values: Kinsey

On a cultural level, the power of sex to separate from the principles of God are pervasive. The principles of secular sexuality mirror those of a secular worldview, in which the right to self-fulfillment, subjective morality based on consequences, and mankind being the measure of all things are endemic. Secular sexual values predominate our society, and have influenced every arena of life from personal relationships to policy to education.

Although traditional sexuality, based on a biblical model, served as the basis for American sexual mores at the foundation of this country, these values became replaced by secular principles of sexuality, beginning primarily in the 1950’s.  Sex researcher Alfred Kinsey transformed the world’s understanding of sexuality with his research, which purported to demonstrate that sexual behaviors, which were previously considered deviant, were common and, therefore, “normal”. Influenced by both his father’s domineering, restrictive religious influence and his own research with insects, Kinsey sought to reform what he believed to be the repressive Judeo-Christian mores of sexuality with a new, stimulus-response-based, humans-as-animals model of sexuality, in which homosexuality, and sex with no restrictions, took center stage. Kinsey, with his observations, tables, and numbers, made alternative, non-marital sexuality, in the eyes of the world, “scientific” and, therefore, valid.

Kinsey believed that all human sexual response was equal, regardless of the stimulus. In his efforts to reject the traditional sex-only-within-marriage norm of sexual expression, Kinsey advocated for and sought to prove the prevalence and “normality” of the opposite – premarital sex, homosexuality, childhood sexuality, infidelity, tranvestism, sado-masochism, bestiality – essentially, any sexual activity outside of that between a husband and wife. Kinsey’s passion as a social reformer, and the ground-breaking nature of his work, combined with powerful financial and political forces, culminated in the revolution of every aspect of law, policy, and education toward a Kinseyan sexual philosophy, in the years that followed Kinsey’s research.

Although largely accepted at the time as “scientific proof”, Kinsey’s research was fatally flawed. Kinsey’s own personal sexual obsessions (including voyeurism, homosexuality, and masochism) drove his research, leading to unrepresentative samples, significant bias, generalizations without scientific back-up, and even reliance upon data obtained by pedophiles’ sexual abuse of children. He led a double life in which, to the outside world, he was a respected researcher who was married with children, while in his personal life he engaged in all manner of sexual variations, including sex with his colleagues, sex with those in the gay underworld that he was researching, making sex films in his attic, and mutilating his own genitals. His work was not significantly challenged until approximately 40 years later, when investigation revealed the flawed, devastatingly biased, and criminal nature of Kinsey’s research.

However, by that time, academia had been monopolized by a Kinseyan philosophy (Kinsey disciples directed all of the first graduate programs in sexuality); the Kinsey elite had created and controlled the accrediting arms for professionals in sexual education; SIECUS, the Sexuality Information and Education Center of the United States, had been formed by Kinsey colleagues as the disseminator of sex education to children; SIECUS had teamed up with Planned Parenthood to bring secular sexuality values to the masses; and the Model Penal Code had been revised to reflect Kinseyan understanding of sexual “normality”, so that criminal laws across states were modified to reduce penalties for sexual offenses previously considered to be aberrant. In short, Kinsey’s secular sexuality, although based on the faulty premises of a man suffering from deviant sexual obsessions that took over his life, had become the baseline values of sexuality for the world.

Secular Sexuality

Secular sexuality is based on the idea that the pursuit of sexual pleasure is a fundamental human right, that any desired sexual expression between consenting adults is good, that children are sexual from birth and should explore their sexuality to have full lives, and that sex can be compartmentalized as a physical act, separate from emotional or spiritual aspects of life. These principles are being pushed world-wide, and are evident in such global examples as the Report of the United Nations Special Rapporteur on the Right to Education, the Yogayakarta Principles of sexuality, and the United Nation’s International Guidelines for Sexuality. Global comprehensive sex education curricula for children also explicitly teach secular values of sexuality, to children as young as five.

Closer to home, secular sexual values make up the basis for policy and education in the United States. SIECUS’ (Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States) Guidelines for Comprehensive Sexuality Education for 5-year-olds include explicit details about sexual intercourse, that “both boys and girls have body parts that feel good when touched” and that this touching is called “masturbation”, that homosexual relationships are normal and natural, and that sex outside of marriage is acceptable. More disturbing content for children can be found in comprehensive sex education materials for children, including explicit details on how youth can experiment sexually (including homosexual experiences), a normalization of pedophilia, the acceptability of sado-masochism, and even explanations about the prevalence and natural experience of bestiality.

Although sex education varies tremendously in the United States from locality to locality (with individual school systems having the authority to choose curricula for its students), increasingly abstinence-based education (with its traditional, sex-only-within-marriage norms) is being replaced by comprehensive sex education (with a focus on secular sexual norms). Both on a national and international scale, Kinseyan sexuality dominates our culture, in education, policy, and family life. The explosion of abortion on demand, gay marriage, genderless bathrooms, no-fault divorce, college hook-up culture, pornography, and pedophilia advocates are all products of this new sexuality – which values personal pleasure and fulfillment over personal responsibility, divorces sex from relational, familial, or spiritual ties, and elevates mankind as the standard for all of life, rather than God.

Where to Go From Here

Sex has power. Physical power, emotional power, and, most important of all – spiritual power.

“But it’s only sex” is akin to saying, “But it’s only nuclear power”. Used in the right way, it can be a phenomenal force for good – uniting husband and wife in a union reflective of that of the Trinity, and bringing us into an experience of God Himself. Used outside of its intended parameters, and it has the potential to destroy body, spirit, and soul; alienating humanity from one another and separating people from God.

Sex is one of the widest doorways to the soul. And Satan has exploited it well to welcome people down the path of a world without God. But it is a deceptive path: one that promises pleasure and fulfillment…but terminates in destruction and death.

  • “Don’t you know that when you offer yourselves to someone as obedient slaves, you are slaves of the one you obey—whether you are slaves to sin, which leads to death, or to obedience, which leads to righteousness?” Romans 6:16
  • “For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 6:23
  • “For when we were in the realm of the flesh, the sinful passions aroused by the law were at work in us, so that we bore fruit for death.” Romans 7:5
  • “Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.” James 1:15
  • “For the lips of the adulterous woman drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil; but in the end she is bitter as gall, sharp as a double-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave… The evil deeds of the wicked ensnare them; the cords of their sins hold them fast.” Proverbs 5:3-5, 22

No matter how good it may feel at the time, sin always ultimately leads to death. Why? Because there is no good, no life, apart from God. True freedom is not the absence of restrictions for the unrestricted fulfillment of self, but the denial of self through obedience to the guidelines of the One who is freedom.

True freedom is found not in freedom for self, but in freedom from self.

  • “Through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death.” Romans 8:2
  • “But if Christ is in you…the Spirit gives life because of righteousness.” Romans 8:10
  • “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life.” John 14:6
  • “See, I set before you today life and prosperity, death and destruction. For I command you today to love the Lord your God, to walk in obedience to him, and to keep his commands, decrees and laws; then you will live and increase, and the Lord your God will bless you…This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live and that you may love the Lord your God, listen to his voice, and hold fast to him. For the Lord is your life…” Deuteronomy 30:15-16, 19-20

We can never, in any part of life, ultimately find good – freedom, joy, pleasure, fulfillment – outside of the Lord. When we realize that, obedience – even sexual obedience – becomes not a restriction, but a blessing.

We must reclaim a biblical understanding of sexuality. We must recognize the ways that sexual sin ushers in secular values, and bring our sexual lives under Christ’s control in an effort to give Him all of ourselves.

We must counteract the secular values that emphasize “self” and replace God with man as the measure of all things. We must adhere to and teach the value of sexual purity as a larger expression of denying oneself out of obedience to Christ – the only path to true fulfillment. We must acknowledge and repent of our own sexual sin, and strive daily toward personal sanctification. We must seek Christ, first, in everything, rather than ourselves.

We must protect ourselves, and our children, from the lie that sex isn’t a big deal.

There is always forgiveness. And we daily need forgiveness. At any point, no matter our sexual sin, when we acknowledge and turn and change and repent, He can reclaim the power of sex in our lives for good.

God’s way of sex is narrow. Husband, wife, united forever in marriage – only. But Christ’s way is narrow: denial of self, obedience to God, only. Only, He promises to walk with us along His narrow way, and He promises the ultimate reward at the end.

A reward that will be, yes, even better than sex.

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